"Here's A 'Hidden' Technique To Covertly Change A Person's Mind, Attitude, Behavior or Belief"

By, Nathan Blaszak, Cht.

People tend to get stuck in their ways so if you know someone who really needs to change their mind, attitudes, behavior, or beliefs about something then the following 3-ways to covertly change their mind might just be what you are looking for.

These 3-ways are part of a loose conversational hypnotic pattern that is designed to subtly influence a person to begin to think of new alternatives about any given subject and in some cases to form new beliefs and behaviors without us needing to use NLP or complicated language patterns.

In other words, we can secretly influence people during our conversations by following these 3-steps to change their mind without worrying about "what" we say because it is more about "how" you talk to them in what sequence.

Here's How To Do It:

Point Out The Absurdity

Imagine that you know someone who openly admits that they hate cats and you had discovered this about them and you wanted them to be open to the idea that cats aren't THAT bad.

The first question we might ask to formulate our argument is "How could we introduce the idea to them that hating cats is absurd?"

If we are direct with people about it and come out and ask "Why do you hate cats? What did they ever do to you? They're adorable, loving and cute little creatures!" then we are often met with instant resistence or even an argument that further strengthens the person's belief that hating cats is the right belief.

That's because when we ask the question "Why do you ...?" it is pretty impossible for the brain to ignore.

So when we ask "why?" towards the exact thing we wish a person wouldn't think or believe about, the brain comes up with supportive reasons, memories, concepts, metaphors, and models of why they believe what they do.

So it doesn't help. In fact, it achieves the polar opposite of what we look to accomplish.

Instead, what could be said that would lead a person to question if their belief about hating cats is absurd?

This is a much better question we can ask ourselves because it allows us to introduce topics to discuss that leads a person to begin thinking toward a new direction.

We could use Guilt And Shame:

• Cats are a natural part of life. They're God's creatures. Therefore, should be loved and adored as any other animal. To not believe this would be to deny God's love.

We could use Mass Acceptance:

• More and more people choose cats over dogs because they are self-sufficient, easier to potty train, keep rodents clear from the home, are low maintenence, playful, entertaining, they like to cuddle, and also have interesting personalities.

We could use You Are Weird If You Don't:

• It cracks me up when someone says they hate cats because it's obvious that they are ignorant about them. After all, most people who develop beliefs that cats should be hated usually is something they blindly repeat what they heard their uncle say about them over a campfire with the boys.

As you can see, there are certainly ways that "hating cats" can be introduced as a belief or idea as absurd.

The whole idea is to introduce a topic that could cause them feel somehwhat silly.

This works because nobody likes to feel like they "don't belong."

-- BUT ... don't take it too far!

My father once asked me the question "If everyone was jumping off a bridge, would you jump too?"

Well, I quickly made his question absurd by saying "Depends, really. Is it falling down? Is it on fire? Is there a missile heading towards where we are all standing on the bridge?"

To further my absurdity, I continued "That's sort of a loaded question Dad. If I'm watching this on TV, hearing about it on the radio, or reading about it in the newspaper and I'm not there, if you're asking if I'd rush to the same bridge later that day to do the same as they are, I'd probably have to say not -- unless I had proof that it would be fun -- like jumping into a new cosmic portal to a new dimension or something."

The point here is, not to take "absurdity" too far.

Nobody likes to feel "outwitted" just for the sake of you winning an argument with a "gotcha!" attitude.

The idea here is to be subtle.

For some time in my life, I had gone through a series of misfortunes. I accidentally killed a pedestrian with my car. Had to fend off lawyers and judges. Shortly after, was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes after almost dying.

When all of these major changes out of my control had happened, I had sank into depression.

To escape from reality, I turned towards watching TV practically the whole day every day for about a month. I lost ambition or drive to do anything productive. I really started to hate myself and what I had become and what had happened to me.

One day, my wife began talking about someone else we both knew who; in short, wasted their time watching TV and doing nothing with their life and how "crappy" their health was, and in short -- how boring of a life they must have.

She said "I can't even imagine sitting back watching other people live their life on some screen when there is so much I'd rather be doing to live my own life that people would want to make a TV show about."

This got me thinking.

First, about how much of a loser I had felt like for doing the same thing!

Second, she didn't come "at" me pointing her finger at all towards me saying that this is what she thought of me. After all, this was just a topic of discussion we had one night about someone else.

-- BUT ... I had found similarity in this person and my own behavior.

Within a couple of days, just as something as simple as what my wife had said to me and what we talked about completely changed my behavior. I couldn't turn the TV on without hearing my wife making fun of someone else for doing what I was doing, and fearing that perhaps she would begin to think the same about me -- if she hadn't already.

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